1. Relationships are not alive. They are only able to grow as big as the individuals in them allow each other to grow.

2. It is not just one partner's responsibility to keep the relationship together.

3. Relationships do not have feelings, but the two individuals in them each have feelings

4. Relationships are not the final destination, they are only a means for each of the individuals to be able to reach theirs.

5. Being in a relationships does not mean that the partners stop being individuals, it just means that they have more opportunities to grow and share as individuals.

6. Relationships are not a contract for one partner to control another. Rather, control is a sign of insecurity or lack of self-esteem on the part of the controller. A self-confident person has no need to control another.

7. A relationship is not always a sign of popularity or success in life; you still need to be respected and treated like an individual human being in the relationship.

8. Don't look for a relationship to make you complete as a person. That's a recipe for co-dependency.

9. You're a whole person before you go into a relationship; the relationship should just enhance what you already are.

10. Relationships are not made of stereotypical men and women filling stereotypical roles, they are made of two unique individuals fulfilling their own personal needs and potential.

11. Relationship problems are not always two-sided.