About the Author:
Just like most people—and probably even like you--I was in a marriage, a relationship, trying to make it work.

I wanted to find a simple list of the elements found in common in healthy mutually supportive relationships as a benchmark to understand and explain my feelings. What behaviors should or shouldn’t I have expected in a healthy relationship? It sounded simple enough. I found a lot of “how-to” techniques, but no simple reference list. I could use the techniques, once I had the list to recognize where I was in our relationship compared to the “healthy standard.” However, after years of researching, trying to find this simple benchmark or standard for couples, but finding only pieces of it in many books, articles and papers, I felt the need to compile one for myself from the research. The result was Relationship Rights (and Wrongs) which included:

• A list of the elements found in common in mutually supportive relationships on one page and in three easy-to-identify categories
  
• a mutual starting agreement in a relationship, that “both partners are individual human beings and deserve to be treated that way,”
  
• a list and definitions of the elements found in most healthy, mutually supportive relationships to help people understand and communicate about what they have or don’t have in their own relationship and
  
• a measuring scale to see where you are in your relationship based on how strongly you feel the elements are supported or denied toward you as an individual as stated in the starting agreement.

Relationship Rights (and Wrongs) is a where-am-I book, not a how-to book. It is a resource book for all relationships, not one based on gender stereotypes for relationship roles.
I hope that the simplicity of the concept and understanding each partner’s three types of Relationship Rights will help you as much as it did me. Please let me know.

Beth